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AW Radio: Trish Causey Talks With Polly Superstar, Sex Culture Revolutionary


Polly Superstar Sex Culture Revolutionary A Memoir by Polly WhittakerIn this latest interview, I talk with Polly Superstar, author of the new book, Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary, which details her journey of discovering herself and helping others along the way. Polly is the founder of the famed Kinky Salon in San Francisco, CA, and a sex positive activist.

in the interview, we discussed anorgasmia, the problem with traditional porn, the evils of patriarchy on women’s sexuality, and of course, Polly’s book, which is out now.

LISTEN: ArousedWoman Radio

To experience more of this interview, get the premiere issue of ArousedWoman Magazine (out January 2015) by visiting the AW website: ArousedWoman.com.

And be sure to get Polly’s book: Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary.

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NEWS: Florida Boy Will Be Circumcised Against Mother’s Wishes as Court Refuses Appeal


Chase Saving Chase T-shirt Keep Him WholeA Florida court won’t allow the state’s Supreme Court to hear Chase Ryan Nebus-Hironimus’ case in which the father wants the 4-year-old boy circumcised, while the mother has fought valiantly against the unnecessary mutilation of her son. The mother has been put on a gag order, which is a violation of her First Amendment rights as well as a violation of her right to speak up for her son’s right to choose what happens to his body when he is 18+.  She cannot even tell her son that she opposes the heinous surgery.

The father wants the circumcision on his son because that’s the “normal thing to do”.  Actually, it’s NOT normal.  Having foreskin to protect the penis glans is what is normal — that’s why boys are BORN THAT WAY.

Circumcision is unnecessary, and it’s sick. Circumcision on a non-consenting person is a violation of his basic human rights to body autonomy and self-determination.  This case is a prime example of no justice for a child who cannot speak for himself and whose wishes would be railroaded by his ignorant father.  Circumcision is sexual abuse, and the Florida judge just condoned it.

The only person who should decide what happens to the anatomy of the male’s penis is the man himself.  No parent, no social custom, no religion is more important than what the male wants for his own body.

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Call for Submissions! REAL BREASTS Wanted.


Woman with Real Breasts Looking Off into DistanceWith the launch of ArousedWoman Magazine happening in the next few weeks, I noticed a theme emerging as I was doing my interviews…. Breasts and Body Image.  I’m not sure how it happened, but I’m going with it! I want to do a pictorial feature of natural breasts — small breasts, large breasts, medium breasts, standing up, laying down, on your side, any color, size, or shape (yes, real breasts come in different shapes).  Pregnant moms-to-be, breastfeeding moms (no baby in the pic), breast cancer survivors. Uneven, different-size cups breasts. The purpose of this feature is to show real breasts in all their glory, to help stamp out prejudice against women whose natural bodies do not meet a ridiculous standard of beauty (or defy the law of gravity). The feature will be a collage of the submitted photos, so rest assured, your face will NOT be seen in the feature. By entering your submission, you are agreeing to the following rules. RULES:

  • MUST be aged 21 or older.
  • No bra — just your breasts.
  • Aim wide, so I can crop it down.
  • Must be high-resolution, at least 1500 pixels wide, at 300 dpi.
  • Submitting your photo does not guarantee it will be used.
  • If your photo is used, you must sign a photo release.
  • There is no pay for using your photo, but you will receive a complimentary copy of the magazine issue.
  • Submit your photo and your contact info via my ArousedWoman tumblr.

Thank you, and I look forward to all your awesome naturalness!

trish

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TOD: Follow-up on Madonna With Twitter Conversation About Media & Women’s Age


Madonna and How the Media Mocks Women's Age - Twitter Convo on 11-30-2014The other day I wrote a piece on Madonna and her new beau, Jonas Kaufmann, that was in response to another site’s drivel about the relationship in which the writer specifically mocked Madonna’s age and dating habits.

Apparently, I was not the only annoyed with how the media treats women, as this twitter convo from yesterday that I stumpled up on clearly illustrates.  Notice the very specific points these three erudite men bring up:

  1. “Every” news piece about female artists mention their age — because women are judged on our looks, our bodies, and what we should be doing with our lives.  How we should behave is centered around a number.
  2. Women over 35 are judged if we don’t act … all proper-like and momsy.

Women are judged if haven’t given up everything that matters to us because we’ve had kids or settled down.  Heaven forbid a woman maintain her own dreams and her own identity rather than sacrificing her soul and her persona for someone else (i.e., husband, kids, menial job).

And sex?!  Grab the fainting couch if you’re not ready to deal with the fact that women over the age of 35 have as much right to a fulfilling, raucous sex life as the 20-somethings.  In fact, Mother Nature blesses middle-aged women with a libidinous power surge right around the age of 35 that can be maintained for decades if the woman stays healthy.  In one of my past AskTrish posts, a man had asked if menopause is a time when women’s sex drive automatically winds down.  NO!

I have experienced this age discrimination and society’s-expectations-criticism too many times to enumerate.  Once a woman hits a certain age (or a certain dress size), she is supposed to act a certain way.  Give her whole life over to being the caregiver for other people’s needs and whims.  Her own wants and needs be damned.

Not if I have anything to say about it!

We have tripled our life expectancy — women outlive men anyway.  Why should we do what is expected of us by a patriarchal society that constantly belittles us, mocks our individual journeys that stray from the path followed by the sheeple, and continues to retrofit ancient, suffocating patriarchal religious mores onto 21st century liberated, independent, rebellious women?

I’m 42, and I personally plan on doing my thing until I’m at least 95.  I have 40+ years to keep speaking out for women and our issues, and I’ll be as fabulous then as I am now.

Age?  Fuck it.

trish

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OpEd: Prudes Shocked as Madonna Dates Younger Man/Opera Singer Jonas Kaufmann


Copyright 2014 by Trish Causey.

Madonna and opera star Jonas KaufmannMadonna is shamed in the media as both an “older woman” and as a sexual person.

I saw a short “article” (i.e., post on a gossip rag) about Madonna possibly dating a famous opera tenor.  It mentioned that she has had several “toyboy” relationships since separating from her husband, and it made a big deal of the fact that Madonna is older than Kaufmann.

The article is sexist and misogynistic. But what else is new….

How many real-life relationships and Hollywood films have featured a male star who is much older than the female co-star?  Think of any film in the past 30 years starring men such as Harrison Ford, Michael Douglas, Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan, even George Clooney, and you’ll notice that an older man being with a younger woman is perfectly accepted by the public.  But when it is the woman who’s older, she’s judged in the media as if she’s robbing the proverbial cradle.  And why is it that when a famous “older woman” dates a younger man, it makes news?  (“Here’s to you, Mrs. Robinson….”)

Perhaps the prudes in our society should know that in the Middle Ages, it was commonplace for an adult man to be engaged to a female child and wed her when she was 15 in order to build socio-economic and/or socio-political alliances.  In fact, a man could marry (in a church, by a priest) a girl who was younger than 15 as long as the man promised not to “touch her” until she was 15 — as 15 was the magic age condoned by the church.  Glad to know a pinky-swear was protecting young girls from being ravished by their much-senior husbands.  (Not.)  There are even instances recorded of men being engaged to infant girls — all for the wealth and security of rich folks invested in patriarchal society.  (“Jesus loves you more than you will know….”)

The other part of the “article” that annoyed me was the “toyboy” comment about Madonna, referring to her various lovers since the end of her marriage.  First, who cares that she’s had several lovers?  Or any?  That people with no lives actually care about Madonna’s sex life is ridiculous.  Secondly, shaming a woman for taking lovers is misogynistic, and yet, it is nothing new.  If she is following her heart (or her body) with her relationships, that is her business.

Do we really need to go over how men are lauded for taking lots of lovers?  A man who dates (sleeps with) lots of women is called a “lady’s man”, a “playboy”, a “player”.  His cred goes up.  But when a woman dates (sleeps with) lots of men, she’s considered a “slut”, a “whore”, a piece of trash.  When a woman follows her sexual passions, she’s characterized as a carnivorous pariah.  Because good girls don’t behave that way — “bad” girls do.  Because good girls go to heaven, while “bad” girls go everywhere.  (“Heaven holds a place for those who pray….”)

It’s the 21st century.  We should be able to talk honestly and respectfully about women over age 40 having sex — or about women having as many lovers as they want — without judgment.

It’s nearly 2015.  The Middle Ages were a thousand years ago.  Women should not have to justify having sex.  At all.

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